Apologies for not even posting up once all last week!…. Due to a personal situation- I loathe goodbyes.
On this freakin' Monday, it couldn't be any more fitting to speak about procrastination. It's Monday! The day we don't want to be hassled with, the day we want to take it slow, the day we don't want to think about doing any work & instead put our lists aside for later, much later.
Tip #16- To procrastinate or not to procrastinate? THAT is the freakin' question!
I have many mixed feelings about procrastination. Both good & bad aspects of it allllllllllll mixed in. And lately, I've had a bad case of procrastination myself.
Feelings of not wanting to finish up things that I've started.
Sometimes mentally stuck & in a slump.
Feeling uninspired & unmotivated.
You get the idea.
When I was in school especially, my teachers, parents, & any other adults made it seem like the act of procrastinating was a big no no. Something that was never to become a habit & if it did become one, it had to be fixed asap in order to be "successful". And these anti-fans weren't just adults, they were also fellow dedicated classmates & ambitious friends at times… making the matter/situation of not being productive worse. Like you're being judged & compared to.
As I get older though, I realize that procrastination isn't just a bad thing. It's not a hinderance & it's not another form of failure. I think that in life, all circumstances have a bright, pretty side as well as an ugly & dark side. It's not possible to be 100% happy & content until the end of our lives.
I guess, I'll start with the ugly side of procrastinating so that I can coat them over with the favorable side along with my own personal helpful tips!
Oh the ugly uglies…
- The crazy unlimited negativity in yourself, to any situation, & how you view others at that time.
- That uphill battle. Where you are stuck in the very bottom part of the hill & you're looking up, questioning whether you should start climbing it or not and you just feel incredibly overwhelmed by it. Searching for that initial push-encouragement-motivation to climb & begin things.
- Procrastination turns into an addiction. We become unconsciously & habitually addicted to doing things that we only enjoy and where not a lot of efforts are needed. We make excuses for things that we should be doing. What's your excuse this time? Procrastination.
- That shitty feeling when you compare yourself to others who are busy doing their things & receiving benefits as the results.
- Letting procrastination become a raggedy hold on yourself & your life. A stand still, no improvements.
How is procrastination actually okay?…
- We can't always be hardworking every single day. We need to also relax & have fun. It's our life where times goes by so very fast that we regret about the things we wanted to do but couldn't. Pleasures, leisures and joys!
- Helps us to gradually embrace + accept our flaws & imperfections :) We become aware of certain flaws like being lazy & we try to fix it!
- Remember that everyone has their own journey & duration of time on becoming successful~ Just because someone else is doing great doesn't mean you need to be more than great around the same time. How else would we find our inspirations & role models?
- Taking those needed breaks can help us to realize more things about ourselves & our surroundings. Less oblivions.
- Recharge & reboot! Saving up energy to get back on track. Another fresh add on to our determinations.
How do I try to bust out of my dragged on & dull pattern??
* If it's not urgent then I take it day by day. I don't want to put extra burden on my shoulders on forcing myself to finish up things rapidly. It turns out to be dreadful, unsatisfying & on top of that, irritable!
* Don't feel guilty for lazing around & being a sloth :P Wear your pjs all day if you can or zone out and/or daydream outside… be in your comfortable bubble. As long as you know your limit & to what extent! That's for you to judge.
* Search for inspirations~ By reading a book that you can relate to & take valuable insights from. Recently, "What I Talk About When I Talk About Running" by Haruki Murakami has been a big help to my writer's block & to ease out the cork in my creativity. Listening to lectures from brilliant speakers are always inspirational! Such as Randy Pausch's Last Lecture which remains unforgettable in my mind. Lastly, watching movies & shows that involve the fall & rise/ life tests/ mistakes & lessons of remarkable celebrities & "non-celebrities".
* Make those lists! I love making lists but I love it even more when I scratch off the things on my lists.
* Talk to your family & friends or anyone else who is trustworthy about your rut. Express & work through it.
**I would love to hear! How are you with procrastination AND how do you get out of it???